Well, I think we need to do away with the logic of “other games do it” or “that’s just how it is.” I think OP knows all of that. I think he’s just questioning why THIS game should have an online culture like that and he’s probably wishing that it didn’t, even if he knows that wishing doesn’t make it so.
Look, not everyone plays fighting games the same way. Some see trying to piss off your opponent as sound strategy, some like to twist the knife a little because they think it’s harmless fun or they like to trash talk and some see it as adding insult to injury, especially when some are just out to have a good time or to learn, etc. People don’t all play games at the same level or for the same reasons, regardless of the realities behind some players motives.
While I accept the fact that some people view this as strategy or harmless fun and some people like to play the game a certain way and that’s absolutely their right, many of you need to accept the fact that the intention behind the behavior; to frustrate someone through what some might call poor sportsmanship, is not welcomed by everyone.
It’s not a matter of having thicker skin, getting better, or anything along those lines. You can be the best player in the world and still not enjoy it when someone shows you what you consider to be poor sportsmanship. The flipside is that some don’t believe in sportsmanship and just want to win. There are multiple sides here and those don’t always agree.
For a newcomer or someone with a lower/midlevel of skill, routinely encountering something like this that you see as negative might deter you from that game’s online environment even if many other players see it as “just the reality of playing” or think it’s funny or whatever.
I’m not saying that everyone should behave the way OP wants them to. We’re all individuals here. Again, I’m just saying that there are two sides to this coin; two perspectives. Saying that this is just a reality doesn’t make it right or okay for everyone. I wouldn’t want to see someone banned over this, not by any means. But it also doesn’t make me want to jump online and play a bunch of people that are trying to get under my skin and make me angry as opposed to simply playing the game and having a good time.
Just my two cents.