I’d certainly be interested in hearing from more women on this topic, as it’s tough to make assumptions when you’re not, ya know, that which you’re talking about and analyzing; like how it always looks weird to see a bunch of old white guys in congress debating women’s issues.
Regardless though, I don’t personally think it’s as much a matter of removing exploitation. Sure, that couldn’t hurt, but I tend to doubt that most women want to waltz in and change everything, as they see how threatening that tends to be.
Plus, women see exploitation everywhere in our culture and they still, by and large, purchase things with objectifying, forced gender normative, or exploitative marketing. That doesn’t make it okay, obviously, so why stay away from the gaming scene and not other stuff? Perhaps they put up with other stuff out of necessity? I dunno.
For this conversation though, it’s an interesting issue that certainly goes beyond the FGC and in to gaming at large. I think that gaming, for whatever reason, has come in to it’s own with the perception that it’s a “boys” hobby. Much like girls would never watch He-Man or Thunder Cats growing up, because those are “boys” shows, right? Made by men, consumed by men, right? Well…
I know that this is anecdotal, but a lot of women I know watched those shows and played video games when they were younger or still do now. Sure, my lady loves Mario Kart, but she also grew up on Mortal Kombat and loves the Soul Calibur and DOA series. I’m sure we all know women that like things that are stereotypically “guy things,” whether it’s certain music, sports, games, etc. Fun isn’t gender normative, just as it’s not age normative or race normative. The recoil some people have, to me, seems more like cultural bias / ignorance.
So if you start off from a place of cultural bias and gender normative behavior, you’re going to have a lot of women avoiding gaming right off the bat and certainly avoiding doing so publically, lest they be considered a tomboy, butch, trying to impress the guys, or any other way of saying “different.”
But then you take it one step further and you go in to why a lot of women don’t feel compelled to assimilate themselves in to gaming communities, which tend to be male dominated.
Well, I think that’s part of the issue right there. I’d have to think that it’d be rather intimidating or even off-putting to try and insert yourself in to a large group that’s not like you. My lady has a book club and the only people that go to it are women (not by rule, that’s just how it shook out). I went once and it felt strange. I felt very out of place, and that was by no fault of the women there.
So you have that aspect.
Plus, in gaming, you have both the anticipation of harassment as well as actual harassment. Both, I would assume, can be rather deterring factors. Women get harassed online constantly, so going to a place where you hear about Gamer Gate and what not and trying to entrench yourself there would probably seem like a battle to some, and one not worth fighting go many others. Again, just assuming here.
So right there, you have cultural gender expectations, potential alienation as well as perceived and actual, real harassment. Not to mention the added distaste some might get from the more exploitative aspects mentioned before in terms of character designs, game goals, etc. That’s a LOT of stuff to stack against someone that’s just looking to play some games with people.
How do we turn ALL of that around? How do we do away with the tree house mentality, the hobby’s perception, the for us / by us character designs etc?
Honestly? I don’t see a silver bullet, as I think the only real solution is time. Time marches on as progress marches on. More women are getting involved in the industry all the time. The more women get involved and the more our cultural sensibilities change about who plays games, who makes games and what characters should look like and how they should function in the gaming world, etc, the more this genre and this medium mature and evolve; becoming a welcoming place for everyone.
In the meantime, all we can do is treat people respectfully and do our own part to be welcoming and treat people the way we’d want to be treated; not as delicate or different, but as friends.